SINGLE IN THE CITY!
Are you enjoying a single, relationship free life? Free to date and have fun; do whatever you want to do and go wherever you want to go? There are lots of people right now who are single by choice. Some are divorced and vowed never to remarry. Some have had issues dealing with relationships and no longer want the stress. Below, I am going to explain the upside and downside of rolling solo.
You don’t have to answer to anyone. When in a relationship, you have to compromise, making sure your partner is happy and you are happy. There is work that must be put into keeping a relationship floating. But, being solo…hell, you have the freedom to roam the universe…no questions asked! You can attend happy hours or an evening event and stay out as long as you want. When you go home, you don’t have to deal with the questioning of the who, what, when and where. You don’t have the responsibility of preparing meals for anyone but yourself (excluding single parents). You can do pretty much whatever it is that you want to do without having to be on lockdown. If you are not in search of someone, then have fun with dating. It can be entertaining to you because you get to try out new spots, cuisines and different social atmospheres.
For some, it can get very lonely at times. Sometimes all you want is a commitment. You may have it all; great job making lots of money, your own house and a car, yet no one to share it with. Inside, you may yearn for that special someone. While
Commitment
dating
is what we all seek, being single can be interesting and fun, it can also become redundant and exhausting. You can go on a date or three only to find out that this is not the person for you. So, you move on to the next candidate. Another downside would be the fact that every new person you meet, you have to go through the same steps of getting to know them. You continuously
ask and answer the same darn questions
over and over and over! Why not just write a list of things you want answered and draw a line to the right for them to answer or have them check yes and no boxes…Just Kidding!
Being single can, from a financial perspective, be a wonderful experience. If you are single with no children, you have your money all to yourself. You don't have any obligation to share it. You can travel, party, and do whatever you like. If you know how to manage your money well, you can save a bundle, or invest in aggressive stocks. Why not, you have no obligations; nothing really to lose. You have NO dependents!
If you are single with children, you have more of an obligation and money, if you are not making a lot of it, can be a little tight. You have to make sure you maintain your child(ren) daily expenses and make sure that daycare, food and everything is available for your child’s needs. In the realm of that aspect, it may be difficult for a single parent,and in this day and age anyone for that matter, to save as life’s curveballs can consume your money. If you can afford to put aside at least $25.00 a paycheck, it could definitely go a long way over time. If you cannot afford to save single or not, look into other ways to bring in extra income. To help you save money, being single with or without children, use the following steps: *Determine your incoming and outgoing amount. You can set up a budget sheet through Microsoft Excel or whatever program or format you choose to use. Keep a record of your daily spending on your budget sheet. Doing this, will allow you to see where your money is going.
Click Here for an example of a single bill report.
*Find loopholes in your budget. Are there bills or other expenditures that you can cut out altogether? This process allows you to see the amount of money you can potentially save. *Open up a high yield interest account. Stashing your money into this type of account can build interest in the long term which will help your money grow. *DO NOT TOUCH IT! Only in absolute emergencies should this money be touched. Taking the necessary steps above to secure a long term savings will help you out for your future needs.
Okay, you are one of the romantics looking for a partner and having no luck at all. Try doing some of the following things below to help jump start your search for your love mate: *Hang out at different locations. Choose places where the type of person you are looking for would be. Potential places like the library, jazz club, happy hour, art gallery, summit meeting, gala, poetry night, concert, and festivals may give you some ideas. The things that you like to do and would like for your potential partner to be interested in will determine where you will want to meet them.
*Flirt with your potential mate. It is 2010, don’t be scared to get a little playful with flirting. You can flirt by playing up your assets; whatever you always get complimented on and use it to your advantage. The number one thing I hear most often is that some women are not approachable. If you allow yourself to be nice, smile often, and let down that wall, you will eventually meet someone with your inviting attitude. No one will approach a person who has their mean face on all of the time. If after your efforts you see the person is not biting keep it moving, they may not be interested. For more help with flirting and places to flirt
click here.
*Are your standards too high? There is this stigma in the world today of single people, especially women, not being able to find that perfect person because we do not have enough choices. WRONG! There are plenty of choices out here. There is no one, perfect person on this earth. Are you looking for someone who is this super god/goddess…who pretty much is unattainable? I am not saying you need to lower your standards, but continue to “refresh” your potential mate list of wants and want nots. If one of your issues is staying inside of your race, experiment with dating outside of your race. You never know that your prospective hubby/wifey is right there waiting for you. I am not saying completely go against your list, but being a little lenient in one aspect of it could open the door to something wonderful for you in the future! Give it a shot.
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