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HOW TO WALK AWAY FROM ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS!The question many of us ponder over is, how exactly do we get OUT of these abusive relationships? How on earth did we get ourselves caught up in this mess to begin with? Why are we allowing someone to mistreat us this way? We need help! Do you need advice on your abusive relationships? Were there any clues or hints in the beginning? Were there any tell tale signs? Did you disregard the obvious signs because it seemed like nothing? Did we disregard the obvious signs because we were head over heels in love with our partners? Or did we completely ignore the unexpected behavior because they said they would never do it again?Are You or Someone You Know the Victim in Abusive Relationships? Today, abuse comes in many different shapes and sizes. You would be surprised at how many people are currently suffering in abusive relationships. Both men and women alike put up with their significant other’s abuse every single day. It doesn’t matter if it’s verbal, emotional, or physical; they all weigh the same on the abusive relationships scale. Ask yourselves this question: Why are you still in your abusive relationship? It starts out as a healthy relationship no signs of abuse, infidelity, over possessiveness or jealousy. In the beginning of your brand new romance there is no fear of intimacy, no signs of a controlling relationship, no hints of an abusive realationship and the love making and car sex are out of this world. You've pulled out all the stops bringing to the table all of your romantic ideas and suggestions to keep things spicy and exciting. You’ve read different books on how to keep your man/woman happy. You've been reading your love horoscope, relationship books, tips on love making, sorted through relationship articles, romantic ideas, searched for cheap romantic getaways and even spent time taking an online love test. Who would have thought that abuse would be in the cards? Days and months pass by and you notice wounds on your ass from cupid’s arrow. You discover that you’re in love! There is nothing in the world that gives you a better feeling than that. And, if anything is ever worth your efforts, it is definitely love. As time progress you begin to notice subtle changes in your partners’ mood and behavior towards you. You both have an argument over very silly and petty things. On more than one occassion they have threatened to do you physical harm. The same person who used to compliment you, admire you, show affection towards you and supposedly love you is now a person, who constantly threatens to hurt you, wants to control what you wear, control the friends you want to spend time with, keep you distant from your family memebers, disrespects you, belittles you, yells at you, humiliates you and physically harms you. Maybe you weren’t aware of this new behavior before but now it’s all becoming clear.
Yes it's true, your spouse could've experienced molestation, verbal, physical or emotional abuse as a child but THIS is no excuse why they would treat you this way. They could have witnessed things no child should see like murder, shooting, rape, or some other type of violence but still NO EXCUSE to treat you this way. I know you want to help them but enough is enough! Sometimes they tell you that you are the only one who can help them. But, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT! AND IT'S NOT YOUR JOB! You start by saying they could use some anger management but the question is, will they go? No! Most times the aggressor is very defensive and thinks that they are right about everything, including abusing you. They want you to feel like you are being punished for something. The rewards you receive from loving them is, abuse! At the end of the day the bottom line is no matter what their issues are; YOU don’t deserve to be treated this way and no one does! I know it’s easy for someone on the outside looking in to simply say: break up with him/her. But breaking up is not that easy! We have love, years and maybe even children invested in this relationship. Sometimes in abusive relationships we are afraid of what might happen if we try ending it. We didn’t know that ours would turn out to be one of those bad relationships. We didn’t notice any red flags or relationship warning signs. But we notice them now! Now we feel the pain that our lovers bestow upon us for no reason obvious other than self gratification. You’ve come to the right place if you are seeking relationship problem advice. You have come to the wrong place if after reading this you will continue to be a victim in your abusive relationships. At some point or another we all seek the answers to these complicated relationship questions. Some of us are treated so badly that we search Google to answer the question of: What is love? This is crazy because we already know what love is, but because of the way we are being treated we need reassurance. Well search no more! According to www.dictionary.com let me help you define love. Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection. Love affection, devotion all means a deep and enduring emotional regard, usually for another person. So there you have it! Many women say that their men abuse them because they love them. Well, according to my definition of love and from what you’ve just read with your own eyes, what’s love got to do with it? Love was described as warm, tender and enduring emotional regard; not once did it read, love = he/she calls you dumb, stupid, retarded, blacks your eyes, slaps your face, punch you in the mouth, yells obscenities and screams at you all the time for no apparent reason! Everything about love IS beautiful and positive, if there is negativity in your relationship then love IS lacking. To be continued & ebook coming soon... |
