According to various surveys, some men have that nagging feeling of not being good enough. You are afraid she will not have a great time unless you completely pleasure her, and you feel compelled to unleash every physical technique to compensate for a personal issue. This will backfire.

You do not need to do everything ­and do not be an overeager yes-man when it comes to making love. The rookie mistake here is trying too hard to please every woman, every time, with the hopes of being the best she has ever had. You will end up pleasing nobody. Instead, learn to lean back and let sexual excellence come to you.

THE PARADOX OF THINKING TOO MUCH

According to Michael Webb, a great sex-pert, great sex is always UNCONSCIOUS; it is not logical or rational.

The bedroom is not the place to think, and the absolute worst time to contemplate your insecurities, sexual hang-ups and skills. Deal with them BEFORE your next carnal encounter and AFTER your last one. NEVER DURING!

Calibrate but don’t thresh-out psychological issues in the heat of things. Self consciousness and self-talk pull you out of the moment and into a negative spiral where you become sexually ineffective and out of touch.

Do not be overly concerned with the mechanics and metrics of making love like the exact pressure or angle of your hand, or the direction of your thrusts. When it comes to the real thing --stop thinking -- focus on your partner and immerse in the moment.

Do not plan every move as if making love is a series of perfectly executed maneuvers. When you over-think things, you will mess up. The best crane operators don’t analyze every step they just do it, the moves have become 2nd to nature. If you think too much, I assure you that the sex will get worse ­ instead of enjoying, you will be too busy figuring out the next best move for making love. Just enjoy the process, take it easy and don’t be too hard on yourself.

It goes without saying that one does not have to gun for sexual perfection; there is no such thing. Afford yourself some mistakes and do not make a big deal out of it. This is very, very important.

THE PARADOX OF THE SIMPLE MOVES

Great sex will always about the SIMPLE MOVES.

It is the aggregate of simple things, done in the right way and at the right time, that makes the world of difference. You have to drive that one in your head. THERE ARE NO BIG TRICKS.

This is not about big moves or magic techniques. It is about making love and snowballing of easy to do maneuvers. The biggest lesson here is understanding that it is the small things that truly matter. It is not about making extensive changes to your game, but simply tweaking it.

It is learning to feel not just with your hands, but with your fingertips. It is being in-tune not just for her screams, but even to her breathing. Not just about writhing bodies but little twitches.

Great sex is simple, (simple doesn’t mean boring), it’s not replete with shock-and-awe. The road to sexual greatness is not some hidden mythic trick, for the most elegant and effective moves have never been kept secret, they have always been there.

They just have been overlooked, if not forgotten. Being unpretentious, they easily pass off as insignificant.

So there you have it, The paradox of trying too hard, thinking too much and simple moves. Remember these three concepts when making love next time and you'll come across much more confident, sexy and natural.

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